This is a little scene of Philippe and I reimagined in LEGO. It’s sitting on a shelf in our house in front of a little LEGO Eiffel Tower. I hadn’t built any sets since I was a child, but last Christmas Philippe bought me some small Star Wars themed sets of these magical bricks and I was hooked all over again. It’s so much fun!
We collect the LEGO architecture sets and have managed to collect them all, including the latest which is of the Louvre, so it’s extra cool! It’s fun and relaxing to sit down in the afternoon and go through each of the miniature steps in the process on the way to completing a masterpiece. While having instructions is fun, every kid big and small knows the real joy of LEGO comes when you just sort of go for it and create your own thing.
If it looks like we’re celebrating in this brick scene, it’s because we were! Philippe had just received his green card, which was a major milestone in our path to being able to stay together. Binational relationships are insanely challenging for anyone, but for a couple of similar gender like ourselves, it was truly daunting.
When Philippe came here for his job, we gained proximity, but it was still not possible to marry and get a green card at the time. We just sort of assumed things would somehow work out although we didn’t have a plan on how that might happen since most of it was out of our control. France was an option, but my French is so ridiculously poor that it was a long shot of an option. (My French is still really poor. At this point, the dog speaks better French than I do)
We finally ended up getting married during the weekend of my movie premier in California last year. I remember Tiffani Theissen telling us, “You just got married! Congratulations! What the hell are you doing here?! You should be on your honeymoon!” She was right, of course, but we hadn’t planned that far ahead.
It’s surprising how much we accomplished with so little planning, but when you’re trying to close a 4500 mile gap between you, it’s probably better that way. The obstacles seem too daunting. Better to just start going for it and see what happens. The one thing I’ve learned is that if you just keep moving forward, you can eventually build a masterpiece. Just take it brick by brick.