There’s just something so beautiful about a “Swan,” our prompt for today. The long graceful necks and white plumage are certainly a draw, but for me, it’s how they live their lives. Swans tend to mate for life, having only one partner during their entire lifespan, which can range from 20 to 30 years. While not quite the commitment of time one would face in human standards, it’s still rather interesting. And though, this is indeed an instinctual behavior born out of greater and greater success in producing little swans each year, there’s a bit more going on than that. Reports of swans in captivity show that after a mate dies, the other swan becomes so despondent they’ll stop eating and indeed, some actually die. Is it death by heartbreak? The truth is, we don’t actually know. Many humans tend to think we’re the only ones with the capacity for romantic love. But, given the divorce rate in swans in less than 4%, I have to believe that we’ve still somehow failed to become masters.
In truth, the idea of being with someone for life is the most romantic notion in the world. It’s that fairytale ending that we all grew up reading about in books. Philippe and I have been watching the show Disney’s Fairy Tale Weddings, and it’s so much fun. It’s equally one big fat commercial for choosing Disney for one’s upcoming nuptials, but since Philippe and I are already married, we just watch the show. The weddings are rather over-the-top like one would expect and that makes it really fun to watch. What’s truly intriguing, however, isn’t the wedding itself, but all of the little soundbites that lead up to the big event. The way that each person in a couple describes the other and why they love them. In short, it’s always the exact same things. But when each person tells the camera why they love someone, it’s like it’s something that’s only ever happened to them. I think that’s when you know it’s love. When a good feeling becomes something so personal, that the word to describe it belongs to you and you alone.
Philippe and I didn’t have a big wedding, but instead got married on a hotel rooftop in Los Angeles with only our officiant present. We didn’t suddenly elope or anything, this was by design. We didn’t want to perform for a crowd, and instead, simply enjoyed something intimate on our own. And, though we didn’t go to Disneyland, we did spend the next day as VIP guests at Universal Studios Hollywood theme park. So, we had our own fairytale wedding in the end. Not to mention the fact that outside our hotel window there were tons of hummingbirds! And it’s quite a big step to promise someone that you’ll be with them until the day you die. Perhaps this is why some couples get the pre-wedding jitters. Of all the steps one can take in life, this is definitely one of the most important decisions. For Philippe and I, there really couldn’t have been a better beginning to our story. And, in my heart, I think we’ll definitely make it to the very end. I know the world isn’t really a fairytale, but those only turned out happily ever after in their Disney forms. No, I don’t want a life that’s just like a fairytale, but I wouldn’t mind enjoying a long life and happy life with the one I love, like a swan.
About the Doodlewash
Da Vinci Paint Co.: Yellow Ochre, Quinacridone Red, Benzimida Orange, Cobalt Turquoise, Ultramarine (Green Shade), and Indigo. Lamy Al-Star Safari Fountain Pen (Broad Nib) with sepia ink in an A5 Hahnemühle Watercolour Book. Want to purchase a print of this doodlewash? Send me a note with a link to this post, and I’ll add it to my shop!
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